Helloooo in there...

Been pretty quiet in my head of late.

Most people would be grateful. Not me. Used to be a time when the voices of my characters would clamor to be heard. They used to have a lot to tell me, most often things like where they were headed and how they would like to get there. Now, not so much. Matter of fact, not at all.

Nick and Flint MacAllister are arguing in a post-apocalyptic world, Randy's in a police station wondering what's become of his mother, young Sam's just gone out to steal breakfast in an oversized rainjacket, and Dottie's got a secret she hopes her husband doesn't discover. And Monk. Dear Monk. Monk sits on the top shelf pinging me with peanuts, his mad attempt to either juice up my imagination or at least keep me nourished until I can find it again. The rest eye me periodically wondering what's next on their agenda.

I've no idea. Literally. None. Does Nick save Flint's life and prove himself the next leader of the ragtag band of refugees? Is Randy's mom off getting married to the wealthy Mister Mister? Will Sam make it home before being beaten by the lowlife that lurk in the shadows, will Dottie's husband forgive her? And will Monk survive long enough to hear Kira say she loves him?

I dunno.

The ceaseless chatter of the internet is blocking my thoughts. I hope Monk has lots of peanuts.

Keep smiling, keep shining

I have a new friend. He's blond, wears glasses and his face is set in an expression that never deviates from 'man on a mission' determination. He's four.

Yesterday marked his first school-wide assembly. He spent some time squirming and ended up sitting on the floor. Twice he covered his ears. He had trouble waiting and I can't say I blame him. I'm not sure the range of deficits this little guy carries around with him, but I'm guessing 'doesn't like loud' and 'get on with the show' are two of them.

His helper scooped him up and sat him on her lap. That's when it happened.

We connected.

He turned and looked at me. I think at first, he was attracted to my glasses, but then, he found my eyes. I stayed absolutely still. I glued a pleasant expression on my face. I waited.

We stayed like this for a long while. Then, he smiled. It felt good.

I hope he remembers. I'm writing this so I never forget.


*post title from "That's What Friends are For" Lyrics by Burt Bacharach and Carole Bayer Sager

Little Girl Lost...and Found

She's twelve. She's not like everyone else and try as she might to follow the crowd, there's a drummer inside her aching to burst out.

Last night she was lauded for being her. Not the her that tries so hard to fit in, but the her that hears the drummer.

There's nothing better. Not even chocolate.

Mos Eisley Cantina

Before we got married, we used to drive around back country roads and end up in odd little diners like this one. The food is always incredibly greasy but so good! They are populated by a motley crew of townsfolk who all seem to know one another well enough to say 'hello' but look at you as if you're a recent visitor from the Twilight Zone.

You have to know my guy to appreciate the twinkle he sometimes gets in his eye. I spotted it right off. He poured cream into his coffee, smiled at me and said, "they have pie." I cracked up. We've been married twenty-two years. We get each other's humor.

We talked about a lot of things today: songwriting, teaching, politics, the fact that Han shot first. We made up stories about the locals. Yeah. We're silly like that sometimes.

Earlier we met with 'the team' to write Speedy Pete's IEP. It's always an arduous process. SP's getting older. Today we were asked how we envision his post-academic future.

Whoa. Heavy-duty.

I'm not sure how to answer it. He wants to be a marine biologist. Am I supposed to say he can't? Am I supposed to tell them that he'll never go to college? Write him off before he even has a chance? Decide for him what he's supposed to be?

They must be thinking I'm someone else's mother.

We didn't give them an answer.

At the diner, we talked and laughed and recharged. It was a good day.

Say "Cheese"!

One day last summer, I was taking a picture of the hummingbirds that frequent my garden every July and I dropped my camera on the deck and smashed the lens. Ouch.

A few months ago, in a master stroke of genius, I left hubby's camera on my desk. Speedy Pete, my wild tornado of a child, used it as a percussion instrument and smashed its lens. Ouch.

With my man not working, I've had to wait for a new camera. The only reason we decided to get a new one was because Peach Fuzz is having her dance recital next weekend and I need to take her picture. So, with mom's day as an excuse, we bought this:

It's a simple point and shoot with a few bells and whistles, but she'll do. I'm not looking to be the next Ansel Adams, I just don't want my babies to grow up without me capturing every moment.

"We're not going to Guam, are we?"

A  plane crash, a tropical island, a polar bear, a mad Frenchwoman, a series of repeating numbers.

A hole in the ground, a science project, a four-toed statue, the end of the world.

A smoke monster, a trek through time, a long-standing battle between good and evil, and an alternate universe where a plane didn't crash.

At some point in the next week or so, all these random pieces of information are going to come together into coherent whole. That's my hope, anyway. For 119 weeks, I have eagerly sat in front of my TV, remote control in hand, poised to leap into the strange and confusing world of LOST (created by Damon Lindelof, J. J. Abrams and Jeffrey Lieber.)  I visit that world with a large group of fans. I'm thankful for them. I'd hate to feel this confused all by myself.

I'm thankful for another thing, too.

This show inspired my writing. It begged me to put things on paper whether they made sense or not. It helped me to trust the process; it taught me to ask "what if..." I accepted the challenge to view the blank page with  a LOST perspective. I learned it is okay to take your readers on a ride, to keep some things a mystery, to take risks, to just write the damn thing and see where it ends up.

I'm not sure whether the LOST writers had it all planned from the beginning or if they've been making it up as they go along. What I know for sure is they've freed their imagination, and in so doing, have lit a fire under mine.

Not a bad way to spend a weeknight.

Mother's Day

This is my favorite picture of my kids. It was taken almost three years ago at DisneyWorld on a stifling hot September day. All around us people meandered down Main Street USA taking in the sights and sounds of 'the happiest place on Earth'.

Not my kids. They were looking at ducks.

I took this picture of them because it made me laugh. At the time, the incongruity of it made me smile and shake my head the way parents do when their kids do something cute and incomprehensible.

Years later, I look back at this moment and realize it encapsulates everything I need to know about being their mother. No matter what I do, or how much I pay, plan, encourage, lead, direct, push and cajole, if I give them a chance, they'll show me what they think is important. And who am I to disagree?

I think they may have put the ducks there to remind me.

Thanks, Walt.